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February 14, 1987, Richard and I had been married for six months and we were fighting. All the time. None of our rough edges had been rubbed smooth as they would come to be over time, the slow drip of water wearing down the need we each had to be right.  He was opinionated and stubborn. I was insecure … Continue reading The History of Love

I've been dreaming of beaches lately, all the beaches of my childhood and young adulthood. Each night I travel to a place where I was young, younger, and sit beside myself as I watch the tides, and grieve for the losses of that time. The death of my father as a twelve years old; the end of my first … Continue reading it’s all grace

I lost an earring the other day. Handmade by a Zuni silversmith out of old turquoise and silver, I bought the pair in Sedona, in 1986, when my husband and I were courting. When I noticed it was gone, I retraced my steps, and then retraced them again. And again. I woke in the middle of the night grieving my lost … Continue reading Lost and Found

I'm just back from two days at Truth or Consequences Hot Springs, a three hour drive south from Santa Fe, down almost 6000 feet in elevation, to a small town snuggled up against the black Turtleback mountains. The town was built around naturally occurring hot springs, and it was here that Geronimo was finally captured as he … Continue reading Something from Nothing

  Today is the Day of the Dead, celebrated all over the world, a day meant to honor our ancestors and  welcome them back into the realm of the living.  It's a day-pass kind of thing, and it's assumed they will depart when the clock strikes midnight. I only mention this because while there are … Continue reading Remember