for BOOK pageFrom one of the original authors of Our Bodies, Ourselves comes the essential guidebook Hot Flashes, Warm Bottles: First-Time Mothers Over Forty.

When I had my daughter Sasha at forty-four, there was nothing in print that spoke to the physical, emotional and spiritual challenges of raising a young child as a midlife mother. I was exhausted and couldn’t rouse myself to floss my teeth, let alone want sex, and by the time my daughter was a toddler, perimenopause was in full swing. My mother needed to be moved to assisted living, and at least twice a year, I was flying across the country to handle emergencies, young child in tow.

I put a tiny classified in the local paper: “Had your first child over 40? Want to get together and talk about it?” and was deluged with calls from older moms; it was pretty clear that we all needed support. This book grew out of those early support groups. Eventually, I found a publisher who gave me an advance to interview other first-time- over-forty mothers on the phone, from home, (read: in my pajamas) and this book is the results. Some stories still make me laugh, especially the chapter devoted to the stories from the kids of older first-time moms.  I hope this book brings you the comfort and support you need and deserve wherever you are.

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What a wonderful and sorely needed book. I recommend Hot Flashes, Warm Bottles to every woman approaching midlife with young children in tow. A life saver!”

Christiane Northrup, M.D.
author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause